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  • Someone asked:
    on April 25, 2025 7:43 pm
    Is it proper for a mentor to be in a relationship with his/ her mentee?
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on April 27, 2025 5:31 pm
      Dear Anonymous,Life is about choices, and relationships are no exception. However, when it comes to a mentor and mentee relationship, certain lines must be approached with caution.Generally, it is considered unprofessional and ethically complicated for a mentor to engage in a romantic relationship with their mentee. Here's why:In any mentoring relationship, there is an inherent power dynamic, the mentor typically holds more influence, authority, or experience. This can unintentionally create an imbalance, making the relationship feel unequal and, at times, even coercive. It can lead to conflicts of interest. The mentor might struggle to make objective decisions regarding recommendations, evaluations, or opportunities for the mentee, whether consciously or unconsciously.If the relationship ends poorly, it can have serious consequences: damaging reputations, careers, trust within the organization, and the broader professional community.That being said, if both parties are adults, fully consenting, and there is no professional conflict, some have chosen to pursue a romantic relationship. However, in such cases, it is strongly recommended that one of them steps away from the formal mentor-mentee dynamic to maintain transparency, fairness, and integrity.At the end of the day, a relationship is your choice, but it is crucial to make that choice wisely. Consider the potential impact on your personal and professional life before moving forward. If it is not a professional mentorship (for instance, more casual or informal guidance), the boundaries may be less strict, but wisdom and discernment are still necessary.Whatever you choose, make sure you are choosing both with your heart and your head.Yours sincerely, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
  • Someone asked:
    on April 17, 2025 2:44 pm
    If a man is well planned and ready to marry,can he date a 19-21 years old lady for marriage or a lady at that age is not prepared?
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on April 20, 2025 10:03 pm
      Dear Anonymous,Please understand that age has little to do with love. Whether you're dating or considering marriage, age should not be your main focus. If someone isn’t mature enough to be a good partner, you’ll still face challenges—regardless of how old they are.It’s better to look beyond age when choosing who to date or marry. Focus instead on their level of maturity, compatibility, willingness to submit, understanding, behavior, and spiritual life. These qualities matter far more than the number of years they’ve lived.In love, age is just a number. What truly matters is what a person brings into the relationship. Don’t end up with an unproductive partner just because you were focused on age.May God guide you to make the right choices. Happy Easter to you, dear Anonymous.Yours sincerely, My Love Life and I
  • Someone asked:
    on April 14, 2025 9:06 am
    What is the results of a "boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, when marriage is yet to be peaceful, relationship was once sweet, then after marriage comes domestic violence... Na wa o, when Africa go stop all this jealousy, obsessive manners and lost! instead of us to live a life of peace and happiness even though there's no love, at least peace of mind should be permitted na!! Abeg we need to grow up in this society o
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on April 14, 2025 2:24 pm
      Dear Anonymous,You’ve shared your thoughts based on your own understanding, and I appreciate that. However, I’d like to clarify something: there's always a little bit of jealousy in love. I find it curious that you're particularly focused on Africans being jealous. The truth is, anyone who truly loves will feel a certain level of jealousy, it’s natural. In fact, someone who never feels jealous may not genuinely care. That said, jealousy should never be excessive or harmful.Jealousy must be controlled. It shouldn’t lead to violence or irrational actions. Love requires patience, understanding, and the ability to listen before reacting. Without these, jealousy can quickly become destructive.You also mentioned that love is interesting during a relationship but changes after marriage. I understand what you mean, but marriage, like any relationship, has its ups and downs. Everything won't always go smoothly. You will argue, you will disagree, but the goal is to learn from those moments, grow together, and always come back to love.People come from different backgrounds, so misunderstandings are inevitable. What matters most is being willing to resolve them, to forgive, and to let love lead the way.Yours sincerely, [My Love Life and I]
  • Someone asked:
    on April 13, 2025 2:19 pm
    Happy palm sunday! My question is that, "why do we humans get heart breaks when we try our best to trust or care even when we don't want to be heart broken"💔 at least we that has the beauty faces don't really deserve to suffer for love na! We also deserve to be loved too... My neighbour always use this to insult me daily saying, some people came to the world to showcase their beauty, and some came to marry handsome men. Why do fine babes always get the fake men and the middle ladies get lucky 🙎🤷💔
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on April 13, 2025 3:15 pm
      Dear Anonymous,Beautiful faces, and those who believe they are beautiful, often find themselves hurt in relationships, not because of their looks, but because of the mindset that comes with it.It’s important to understand that beauty does not guarantee love. Love doesn’t favor looks; it values connection, character, and effort. The belief that being beautiful entitles someone to love or makes them better than others often leads to disappointment and delay. That belief can even push people to be submissive to the wrong individuals or overly selective in ways that aren’t helpful.Your neighbor, who pointed out that beauty doesn’t always lead to love, might be right. They may have been observing your behavior and how you express yourself. And from what I’ve read here, it seems your beauty might be deceiving you, making you feel too special, and that mindset can take you nowhere meaningful.Many people who are considered "average" find love more easily because they don’t carry the burden of ego or pride. They are open, grounded, and willing to connect on a deeper level. They are more likely to be submissive not out of weakness, but out of love and understanding.This “I’m beautiful” mentality may continue to delay your path to real love until you consciously let go of it. Start choosing partners who truly love you, even more than you love them at first. Stop basing your choices solely on appearance. Instead, give a chance to people with mature minds and hearts, you might find yourself growing to love them for who they truly are.Happy Palm Sunday to you. May this be the beginning of a new understanding of love and life.Yours sincerely, [My Love Life and I]
  • Someone asked:
    on April 13, 2025 1:52 pm
    What will you do if a prophet tells you the man you are dating is not your husband.
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on April 13, 2025 9:09 pm
      Dear Anonymous,You are the sole proprietor of your life. Every decision you make, whether good or bad, is ultimately yours. No one else, not even a prophet, has the authority to make those choices for you.You are the one who should talk to God directly. Believing someone else can do it better than you, especially in matters as personal as who to marry, reflects not a lack of answers but a need to strengthen your own faith. The best approach is to present it to God in prayer.Even if the answer is difficult, God will reveal it to *you*, not to someone else on your behalf. That’s why your relationship with God is key. Whatever anyone says should be weighed and either accepted or rejected based on your personal faith in the Lord.My dear sister, if he were truly not the man meant for you, you likely would have already seen signs, subtle or clear, indicating that. God is faithful and will always warn you ahead of time. Not all prophetic messages come from God; some may be influenced by personal motives. So continue to pray, and trust God to give *you* that confirmation, not man.This is my sincere advice to you, my sister in the Lord. Enjoy your Palm Sunday to the fullest.Yours sincerely, [My Love Life and I]
  • Someone asked:
    on April 13, 2025 1:04 pm
    There's this lady I liked not out of lust or first sight, I just noticed I had feelings for her so I went ahead to ask her out after some delays from her side she finally accepted After some number of months that we've been in a relationship the lady seems to love me but I don't have that strong feelings for her as I used too, we have never been intimate neither is anything wrong with her just that the feelings are not as strong as before So what should I do??
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on April 14, 2025 10:57 am
      Dear Anonymous,Sometimes, something about a person initially attracts us without us even realizing what it is. It could be an aura, a gesture, or even just a vibe. But when we get closer, we might discover that what we expected isn't quite what we find.Feelings don’t usually disappear without a reason. It could be that she’s not meeting your expectations now that you know her better, or perhaps someone else is slowly drawing your attention away from her.Genuine feelings don’t just vanish unless they were based on temporary conditions. So, take a moment to reflect. Was there something specific that drew you to her in the beginning? And what changed?If you’re still unsure, we’re here for you. Consider having a private session with us. With a few guided questions, we can help you explore what's really going on inside you. Sometimes it’s not about the person, but about personal struggles or challenges you might be facing at the moment. If that’s the case, give yourself grace, feelings can return when the clouds clear.Stay true to yourself and take your time, brother.Yours sincerely, My Love Life and I
  • Someone asked:
    on April 5, 2025 6:38 pm
    Few years back a friend of mine introduced me to some novels at first it was just plain but it got to some points that it started to arouse some feeling I couldn't kill but as a pastor's kid with the fear of the Lord I knew I couldn't have a romantic relationship but I ended masturbating. I've prayed, abstained from things that I know arouses such feeling and wven cut off some friendship that I knew wasn't helping but there are times that the feeling comes and I'm unable to hold it but end up commiting the same sin. Please what can I do? It has become a burden in my heart.
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on April 6, 2025 2:51 pm
      Masturbation can sometimes become an addictive behavior or a habitual act. There are several steps you can take to overcome it. If you follow these steps one after the other, you should be able to break free from this habit. Additionally, prayer can be a powerful tool in helping you overcome it. Praying against the urge, while also taking necessary steps to address the behavior, can be incredibly helpful.Stopping masturbation, especially if it's becoming a habit you want to change, can be a challenging but achievable goal. Here are some strategies that can help:1. Understand the reason: Reflect on why you want to stop or reduce it. Whether it's for personal, religious, or health reasons, understanding your motivation will strengthen your resolve.2. Identify triggers: Pay attention to the situations, emotions, or thoughts that trigger the urge. These could be boredom, stress, or being alone. Identifying triggers helps you avoid them or handle them differently.3. Find alternatives: Engage in healthy activities like exercising, reading, or learning new skills when you feel the urge. Keeping yourself busy can divert your mind.4. Practice mindfulness: Techniques like meditation and deep breathing can help you manage impulses. Mindfulness helps you become more aware of your thoughts and urges, allowing you to respond instead of react.5. Create a supportive environment: Avoid situations where you're likely to feel tempted. This might include avoiding certain websites, staying busy during lonely moments, or adjusting your environment to avoid triggers.6. Set small goal: Instead of aiming for complete abstinence right away, start with shorter periods of time. Gradually increase these periods as you build control.7. Seek professional support: If you're struggling or feel that the habit is difficult to manage, talking to a counselor or therapist can help. They can offer personalized advice and coping strategies.Remember that it's okay to seek help and that changing habits takes time and patience. Don't be too hard on yourself if there are setbacks.
  • Someone asked:
    on March 28, 2025 5:27 pm
    Good day sir/ma, I am 34 years and I am still single. Pls I need advice,there is one guy I dated from 2015 to 2019.so that guy stay at Ikorodu in lagos but I am staying at ibadan.so I visited him once in 2016 and 2017. In 2019 he moved to one brother house in aja around 2019 because he is working at aja that time.That brother,I and my guy are from the same town and the brother is married with 3children. That brother do advise my guy and I a lot because my guy did not serious. That brother said I should come to Lagos that there is matter he want to discuss with me and my guy. though I was planning to leave the guy because of unseriousness that time. So I went to Lagos 2019 to visit him in that brother house, he asked me about how my guy used to spend his salaries and I told him I don't know anything about it because he didn't send money to me.and I also explained how I will used my money to visit him without refund it back to me so the brother spoke to 2 of us and I spend like a week before I go back to school then is even the brother that gave him my transport money and my guy still removed 1000 from that money🤔 that brother advise him to rent house so that we can start preparing for marriage of which he do but he didn't tell me that he has moved to his renting apartment if I called him his number will not going, sometimes another lady will pick his call that he is charging his phone that I should allow his phone to charge, it got to a time I noticed he blocked my number so he do called me once a while until one day I asked him why he is doing like that and he told me he has another girl friend, that was 2020 january.he started blaming me that I was the one that push him out because during our courtship there is no sex between us.not known the lady is pregnant.i cried because i love him so much and I don't have another man. I later told him not to call me again. So the brother that accommodate my ex later traveled out of the country he messaged me on Facebook to give him my number. So we spoke about I and my ex break up.he said my ex told him there is no sex between us during our courtship and I said yes and he asked why and I explained the reason. Until 2023 the man call me he explained what he was facing in his marriage that is wife his now carrying different man to there home to the extent they send video of his wife and another man on bed to him on WhatsApp, according to him his wife send his brother that came from our town out he said she cannot be dressing in the presence of that boy,after he sent him out he accommodate another man.the thinking is too much for him that time so I do call him to talk with to him, some month later he ask me if I can marry him that he need someone that they can plan life together but I said no because I was thinking about the wife and my ex that 2023 I told him that he should forgive his wife and move on but he said no.he said he is coming to Nigeria 2024 that he will invite me to come and visit him so that we can sit down and discuss about itand I said ok. That brother later came to Nigeria January 2024 he called me but I did not go he tried his best so that we can see each other but I was given excused. But he didn't tell his wife that is coming to Nigeria so that he can catch her and he said he confirmed it that he even court the pastor of the church that the wife was attending with his wife and the man was begging him not to expose him because of church and the brother later traveled back.since that time I don't call him like that again until this year that he has tested ladies but they failed that I should pls marry him, he said his plan his to go first and later bring his wife and his 3female child to abroad but since the plan didn't workout he need to marry another person because he still young (his not up to 40years) he said he need someone he can trust with his property. I asked him about what there family say about it he said the wife doesn't pick his family number again and the family advise him to marry another person. Pls what should I do in this case 🙏
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on March 28, 2025 10:45 pm
      Dear Anonymous,This is a serious matter, and I want you to reflect deeply on it.Marriage should be a place of peace and security, where you feel comfortable and at ease. It’s not about the past or age; it's about the present and future.Ask yourself honestly, Can I cope with this man’s present and past? He has three children already, are you ready to manage that? And are you certain that his story about his ex-wife is truthful, and that their divorce is legally finalized?If you decide to go ahead with the marriage, I hope you’re not doing it for his achievements or out of any other external reason. Make sure your reasons for marrying him are genuine.Don’t rush into this decision. It’s easy to get caught up in the pressure of time or the feeling that age is no longer on your side. But think carefully: are you considering this relationship out of pity, or because you genuinely love him?Marriage is a lifelong commitment, not something to be entered into hastily. You can marry later in life and still find the right partner, or marry young and end up unhappy.If he’s not finding peace in his current marriage and it’s affecting his mental health, then it may be right for him to seek a divorce. But remember, it’s also important for him to find peace, and that doesn’t always mean remarrying right away. The key question is: are you willing to accept him as he is, and give him the peace he desires? Make sure you’re in love, and not making this decision out of pity, or because of age.Stay focused and take the time you need to think deeply about everything before making any decisions.We love and value you for personal counseling +234-7030-582-692Yours sincerely, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
  • Someone asked:
    on March 23, 2025 1:28 pm
    Pls what can cause vigina oddor during sex? because have take many proscription medicine and injection for effection but still i will still discover it after some weeks later. Because I noticed this have been irritating to my partner and he as been avoiding me due to the the money he as spend for me to get free out of this mess 🙏🙏 don't look like this
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on March 23, 2025 9:54 pm
      Dear Anonymous,I'm really sorry you're going through this, it sounds frustrating and stressful. Vaginal odor during sex can be caused by several factors, even if you've taken medications before. Some possible reasons include:1. Bacterial Vaginosis (BV), This is a common cause of fishy odor, especially after sex. It happens when there's an imbalance of bacteria in the vagina. 2. Yeast Infections, These don’t always cause odor, but sometimes they can lead to a musty or sour smell. 3. Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs), Some infections like trichomoniasis can cause a strong odor during intercourse. 4. Poor Vaginal pH Balance, Certain soaps, douching, or even semen can disrupt your natural pH, leading to odor. 5. Sweat & Poor Hygiene, If you sweat a lot or wear tight clothing, it can trap moisture and cause an odor. 6. Hormonal Changes, Pregnancy, birth control, or menopause can sometimes affect vaginal smell.Since you've already taken medications but the issue keeps coming back, I recommend: - Getting a vaginal swab test to check for infections (some infections need specific antibiotics). - Avoiding douching and using only mild, unscented soap around the vaginal area. - Eating probiotic-rich foods like yogurt to help maintain good bacteria. - Using cotton underwear and keeping the area dry.If the odor keeps returning, it may be worth seeing a gynecologist for a deeper evaluation. Your partner’s reaction is understandable, but your health comes first, don’t feel ashamed! You deserve proper care and a solution that works. Let me know if you need more advice.Yours sincerely.[MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
  • Someone asked:
    on March 20, 2025 5:51 pm
    Please what can I really do in a relationship that lacts communication. If I ask him why is he not calling or pick my own call,he will say that he don't like answering calls. I have complained severally and got tired And he always say he's with me that he still loves me but how then will he stay for some months without hearing from me so this attitude has got me tired already, I'm just confused.
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on March 23, 2025 9:46 pm
      Dear Anonymous,Communication is the engine room of a thriving relationship. Without it, any relationship is bound to struggle, and its future will be at stake.If he constantly complains that he doesn’t like calling, that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t learn to do so, especially for the sake of the relationship. Love teaches us to grow and make efforts for one another.Someone who goes months without calling or checking in doesn’t truly care. Love isn’t just about words; it’s about actions and consistent communication. A relationship without communication lacks everything.It’s not about how long you talk but how effective the conversation is. The ability to express the right words at the right time strengthens the bond. If someone always finds excuses not to communicate, it simply means you’re not a priority in their life. When you matter to someone, they will naturally want to hear from you, seek your advice, and share their thoughts with you.So, ask yourself, why stay in someone's life if your presence adds no value? The choice is yours.Yours sincerely, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]