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  • Someone asked:
    on March 2, 2025 9:37 pm
    I’m in a relationship for 2 years and each time we had an argument is base on his ex girlfriend, we have been fighting over this for long. The relationship was just 6 months when I realized he has been chatting and sending money to a particular girl and I find out that, this is his ex. I confronted him and he told me that he wanted to take revenge on her for what she did to him. I beg him to stop and he said it ok he still kept in touch with this girl and change her name name so I won’t know is the same person. This has been going on for a long and anytime I ask him he tells me story, and one day my boyfriend sent me a picture of his ex and a guy that he has nothing to do with her again because she has a boyfriend now, and my guy and the ex are from the same hometown and he spend more time at his place though he has rented for me so he always visit but I don’t visit him. When he is at his place he doesn’t call or text if I call him, he will be given excuse to cut the long story short I called him today to find out the reason he hasn’t call me and he was out having fun and asked him he hasn’t called me today and was like he is very happy so he is having fun and I asked him the reason he is happy and this man told me that the ex came and insulted him on facebook and sent her new boyfriend pictures to him and now the guy has break up with her that makes him happy and I told it all about this girl again and he hang up the call and I have been calling him back and he is not picking I feel like am wasting my time with him am confused on what to do.
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on March 4, 2025 4:55 pm
      Dear Anonymous,The truth is, he is still in love with his ex-girlfriend, and until he realizes this for himself, there’s nothing you can do to change it.When a person doesn’t set boundaries, they may find themselves going back to what’s familiar, just like a dog returning to its vomit. Until he distances himself from her, you will continue to experience the same situation over and over again.You may not necessarily be wasting your time, but you do need to bring this issue to his attention. Have an open and honest conversation with him. Sit him down and ask why he is still in contact with his ex. Make him see that as long as he keeps that connection, emotions will continue to resurface. Feelings don’t simply disappear, but distance can weaken them over time.If he truly wants to move forward with you, he must create space between himself and his past. If he refuses to do so, it’s a sign that he may not love you the way you deserve. Instead, he could be using you as a distraction, a way to heal, or even as a tool to regain his ex’s attention.Think about this carefully and decide what’s best for you.Yours sincerely, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
  • Someone asked:
    on February 25, 2025 10:30 am
    Am a girl of 24 there was a guy who claimed to love me nd he is too emotional, we just started the relationship stuff he came to my place for night over he wan have sex with me but I don’t accept because i never know the kind of love he have for me, but he came to my place another week but we have sex nd I decided to check his attitude but he didn’t not change but he complains abt not having time with him not calling him but am confused abt him is it normal as a guy to come to girl place nd sleep over or is thre any tips to play with him to know the kind of love he have
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on March 3, 2025 11:49 am
      Dear Anonymous,Let me start by saying that there is nothing wrong with spending the night at a lady’s house, as long as there is mutual understanding in your relationship. However, I hope it’s not at her parents' house. If the house belongs to her personally, then there’s no issue. That said, as a man, it is generally expected that you invite a lady over to your place before spending the night at hers. Either way, there’s nothing inherently wrong with it, but you should remain vigilant about his intentions.As for him asking you to keep calling him, I see that as a red flag. Communication in a relationship should be mutual, it should not be enforced on one person. Both partners should engage with love and willingness. When love is one-sided, it becomes dull and lacks excitement. A relationship that is not fun and fulfilling can easily wither. Pay attention to this behavior and try to correct his perception that you should always be the one calling.However, since this relationship is still new, I suggest you give it some time to observe and understand him better. You don’t want to lose him simply because you’re seeking perfection. Keep in mind that no relationship is perfect, we all tolerate small imperfections in each other. Without this, no relationship would survive.That’s my little piece of advice.Yours sincerely, My Love Life and I
  • Someone asked:
    on February 21, 2025 9:07 pm
    I'm in a relationship for 2 years and it doesn't seems to have a destination recently I just met my old time friend, he said he loves me and wants to get married to me but he have a girlfriend who he's stocked with that the only way we can get married is for me to get pregnant for him main why we haven't had sex. Now I'm confused, I like him but I don't want be a second option please I need advice
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on February 24, 2025 8:53 pm
      Dear [Anonymous],Life is full of choices, you decide what you want and what you don’t. My question to you is: How did you come to believe that your current relationship lacks a future?It’s important to make sure you’re not feeling dissatisfied simply because an old friend has reappeared, expressing love for you while maintaining a smooth relationship elsewhere. If he openly admits to being involved with someone else yet still wants you to "mingle" with him, be cautious. It’s easy to mistake an escape route for a real opportunity, especially if things aren’t perfect with your current partner.Before you make any decisions, reflect on your relationship. Is it abusive or toxic? Does your boyfriend engage in harmful behaviors like drug use or anything else that goes against your values? If not, perhaps the relationship is worth another look.It’s natural to feel uncertain when a new option presents itself, but remember: sometimes the devil you know is better than the saint you don’t. Don’t let temporary feelings or external influences push you into a situation where you might become a "second option."If you need to take a step back, it might be better to distance yourself from both relationships rather than risking heartbreak or regret. Above all, pray and seek clarity before making any major decisions, spiritual guidance can bring peace to your heart.Yours sincerely, [My Love Life and I]
  • Someone asked:
    on February 16, 2025 4:02 pm
    I have missed my period for three months I have checked it six times but it shows negative I have used different kinds of medicines both traditional and orthodox medicine, but still my menses is not coming. I am not using family planning
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on February 16, 2025 9:48 pm
      Dear Anonymous,Thank you for reaching out with your concern. Missing your period for three months while repeatedly testing negative for pregnancy can be quite distressing. While there are several possible reasons for this, one of the potential causes could be an infection. However, this is only an assumption, and it is essential to seek proper medical advice to determine the exact cause.Possible Reasons for Your Missed Period1. Hormonal Imbalance Conditions such as polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), thyroid disorders, or elevated prolactin levels can disrupt your menstrual cycle. 2. Infections. Some infections, especially those affecting the reproductive system, can interfere with menstruation. Symptoms like unusual discharge, pain, or fever may accompany them. 3. Stress and Lifestyle Factors. High stress levels, drastic weight changes, poor diet, or excessive exercise can lead to irregular periods. 4. Medications and Traditional Remedies. Certain medications, including herbal remedies, can alter your hormonal balance, leading to delayed or missed periods. 5. Underlying Health Conditions. Chronic illnesses such as diabetes or conditions like early menopause can affect menstrual regularity.What You Should DoSince you have tried both traditional and orthodox medicines without success, it is crucial to see a qualified healthcare provider for a proper medical evaluation. A doctor may recommend:- Blood Tests. to check for hormonal imbalances, infections, or underlying conditions. - Ultrasound Scan. to assess your reproductive organs and rule out ovarian cysts or other abnormalities. - Lifestyle Adjustments. if stress, diet, or weight changes are contributing factors.Ignoring prolonged menstrual irregularities can lead to complications in the long run, especially if an untreated infection or hormonal disorder is the cause.Final AdvicePlease prioritize visiting a doctor for an accurate diagnosis and appropriate treatment. Self-medicating or trying multiple remedies without knowing the exact cause may worsen the situation.Thank you for consulting us. We hope you find a solution soon!Yours sincerely, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
  • Someone asked:
    on January 19, 2025 8:52 pm
    Hi,I got merried for papers en on the line after merriage I met someone. I bond with this person. I later followed my husband, I truly love my new guy I want to settle down with him. But I am afraid the new guy is stuck dnt have a kid, I have from previous relationships. With my husband he loves me but mistreats me, I do everything for myself. I pray to finish time. But now I am thinking would I go back to this guy or find someone else after I get documents. But scared knowing new person again dnt want to start over with someone new. Old guy knows everything about me en the kids. But he is into internet fraud and I don't like it at all.
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on January 20, 2025 10:59 am
      Dear Anonymous,When you're constantly searching for the "perfect" person, this is the kind of result you get, disappointment. No one is perfect. If you're leaving your husband because of issues, only to move on to another man and start complaining again, it shows a pattern. Over time, you'll likely grow tired of him too, leading to yet another cycle of disappointment.You mentioned that he is involved in internet fraud, and you don’t like it. The same way he deceives others, he could deceive you as well. This is something you already recognize. But let me tell you this, if you continue to switch partners, expecting perfection, you will never find true happiness. No man is flawless, just as no woman is. Marriage itself means "managing" each other's imperfections, as long as they are bearable.God has already blessed you with children, yet you deny yourself peace of mind. People who constantly seek perfection rarely find peace. If relationships are bringing you so much distress, why not focus on raising your children and finding fulfillment in them? You can still have a man in your life while maintaining your strength and independence. However, it’s clear that you have high expectations from men, which is why you keep facing issues in relationships.If you don’t shift your mindset, you may end up with deep regrets in old age. Think carefully about what I’ve said. This is not criticism but a wake-up call to help you reflect.Yours sincerely, My Love Life and I
  • Someone asked:
    on January 19, 2025 2:46 pm
    Any time I will have sex with my girlfriend friend she fall sick I love her and I want to marry her but because of that I am scared cuz I love sex.
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on January 19, 2025 3:03 pm
      Dear Anonymous,It’s possible that this is a medical issue, so seeing a doctor would be a good idea. While anxiety or fear could be causing these symptoms, it's important to rule out any underlying health concerns. Sex shouldn't make her feel sick, so consulting a physician can help determine whether the cause is medical or psychological. Even if it’s just a coincidence, professional advice will provide clarity and peace of mind.Possible Reasons for Feeling Sick After Sex1. Anxiety or Fear. If she experiences anxiety or has a fear of sex (genophobia), it could trigger nausea, dizziness, or even panic attacks. 2. Hormonal Reactions. The body releases hormones like oxytocin and endorphins during sex, which can sometimes cause lightheadedness or fatigue. 3. Physical Exertion. Sex is a form of exercise, and if she’s dehydrated, has low blood sugar, or is out of shape, she may feel weak or nauseous. 4. Postcoital Headaches. Some people experience headaches or migraines after sex due to sudden changes in blood pressure. 5. Allergic Reactions. In rare cases, a person can be allergic to semen (seminal plasma hypersensitivity) or certain lubricants and condoms. 6. Infections. Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or urinary tract infections (UTIs) can cause discomfort, fever, or nausea. 7. Underlying Medical Conditions. Conditions like vaginismus, endometriosis, or heart issues can cause pain or sickness during or after sex.If she consistently feels sick after sex, it’s best to consult a doctor to determine the cause and find a solution.Yours sincerely, [My Love Life and I]
  • Someone asked:
    on January 12, 2025 5:00 pm
    Hellow good evening,with your advice I'll make my last decision on this issue of mine.There's this lady that we've been together for half a decade now and what we keep will probably lead us on. But how things were, they're not like that and as a guy, depression and frustration is eating me up to the extent I start being cold to her. I feel bad myself because she deserves better. I sometimes wish to advice her to go for a new guy since a lot are approaching her all because I want to see her happy due to her good heart and love but I feel she'll get hurt by me saying that to her.Now we're at different places trying to gather something and use it to start up life i;e to establish ourselves by the close of the year since we've targets we're aiming at.My instinct is asking me to transform myself anew since my old self isn't helping. By so doing,I want to cut off all relationship including her. And by so doing, I'll know am alone and I'll make it before coming back to light. I really want to enter the dark room just to work on myself.
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on January 12, 2025 6:20 pm
      Dear Anonymous,A lady who stays with you through your lowest moments deserves everything. Even if you are about to enter a phase darker than any you’ve known, take her with you. The true beauty of a relationship lies in understanding, and without it, nothing meaningful can come out of the union.Work things out together. Sit down, evaluate your plans, and be willing to adjust those that are failing. Two heads are better than one, but if your combined efforts are not yielding results, then something needs to change. Amend your approach. Change your hustle, expand your scope, learn new things, and equip yourself with life’s innovations. Remember, greatness can emerge from nothing, but giving up isn’t the solution. You may never find another woman like her, and hurting her in an attempt to escape your struggles will only worsen the situation.Even if you must step away to find clarity, let her know. Keep her informed, so she won’t be left battling confusion and worry. Disappearing without a word could mean losing her forever. Someone else might take your place, someone who will wipe her tears and bring her peace. A woman’s heart is flexible; they seek understanding and solutions to their happiness.Think deeply before making any decisions, my brother. I wish you the very best in your endeavors.Yours sincerely, My Love Life and I
  • Someone asked:
    on January 12, 2025 12:49 pm
    Hi Good afternoon, I have a question to ask please my write up may be lengthy pardon me My boyfriend is married with 2 kids.. I knew he was married before we started out tho. But we we’re dating when she had the second baby, He claims the marriage is problematic and I’m his peace but still anytime we’re spending the night together he’s texting or calling her and he claims it’s just coz of the kids. Recently we traveled together for a few days and once I lie down for a while and he feels I’ve slept he’ll send her voice notes about how his day went and even give the tiniest details. On the trip this time his phone fell and the screen went bad he had to put his sim in my phone, he made and received other calls in my presence but there was a specific number he kept leaving to receive calls from… when he got his phone fixed I checked and it was his wife as i had thought.. i feel so stupid and like a second option… I’m not praying for their marriage to crash or anything but a marriage that’s as problematic as he makes it seem wouldn’t get that much attention from him I don’t know how to end things or if i even should coz he’ll begin to feel i’m seeing someone else and thats my reason for breaking up pls advise me
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on January 12, 2025 3:54 pm
      Dear Anonymous,The truth is, if you are not yet married to him, it’s time to step back and take a closer look at the situation. Based on your analysis, he isn’t having issues with his wife, and it appears he is simply using you to pass time.Speaking from a man’s perspective, when we care deeply about someone, we make time for them, we share our daily experiences, and we communicate consistently. If he isn’t opening up about his life to you, it means you don’t hold significant value in his heart. Unfortunately, this suggests that your role in his life is that of a side relationship, not that of a wife or future partner. His true commitment remains with the woman who has his two children.The people we go out of our way to call and communicate with are the ones we genuinely love. If he’s with you but still makes time to call his so-called “ex-wife” without hesitation, even in your presence, it speaks volumes about where his heart truly lies.However, the reality is that you accepted this dynamic from the start. You knew he had a child when you entered the relationship, and you chose to overlook the warning signs. If you no longer want this arrangement, it’s time to walk away.Remember, actions speak louder than words. Always pay attention to what someone shows you, not just what they tell you.I hope my words don’t hurt you, but I have to be honest with you from a professional standpoint.Have a lovely day, beautiful.Yours sincerely, My Love Life and I
  • Someone asked:
    on December 29, 2024 7:05 pm
    Hi guys please I need an advice on this I have a bf who already have a wife and a son. Though we were already dating when this girl came that she's pregnant for him and this my bf told me the girl was his ex girlfriend Okay so all well and good I still accept to stay because I love him so much but then my bf changed to me ever since then He kept doing things for his wife and tell me he doesn't have Everytime I said I need something I love him so I decided to stay I don't have someone else so it makes it pains me Everytime I think about itRecently I asked him a question that am I the only one his not doing for or both of us and he turns it to breakup He said I have never bring him anything in the relationship for years than suffering And I am a waste of his time And even my presence have changed his life So guys please I need an advice Should I continue or accept the breakup totally Even though I accept the breakup but I don't know if I should truly let it go completely
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on December 30, 2024 5:01 pm
      Dear [Anonymous],It’s clear that you’ve concluded he “has a wife.” For someone to tell you that a woman who is pregnant for him is an "ex," and to openly admit he is accepting responsibility for the child, should have been a red flag. His actions reveal that he was likely involved with both of you at the same time, regularly having unprotected sex with her while possibly being more cautious with you.From the very beginning, he placed you in the role of a side chick, even though you may have believed you were his girlfriend. Actions speak louder than words, and it’s not everything's someone tells you in a relationship that you should believe. Pay attention to their behavior, it reveals the truth about where you stand in their life.If you didn’t realize it then, you should know now: you’ve been the side chick all along. Even without an official “breakup,” you should recognize that this relationship has run its course. Staying in it only prolongs your pain and allows him to continue using you. After the birth of his child, it's likely he’s still engaging with you on the side, which only makes it clearer that this dynamic isn’t healthy.Don’t cling to what you’ve lost in the relationship, and don’t let fear hold you back. The thought of starting over can be daunting, but God, who knows the best path for you, will guide you to something better. Remaining in an unworthy relationship is the reason some women miss out on finding the right partner.It won’t be easy, but you must gather your strength, pick up the pieces, and move forward. Your life and your future are still in your hands, and you have the power to rebuild and amend it when things go wrong. Trust in yourself, and believe that the best is yet to come.Yours sincerely, [My Love Life and I]
  • Someone asked:
    on December 29, 2024 2:46 pm
    Greetings,pls I'm seriously need a good advice. I'm in a relationship of very poor communication,and Ihave complained severally about it but to no avail, that's the most challenging part of it. I'm just confused bcos by Grace of God the relationship will be leading to marriage but our communication is very very poor. He cannot just call and say he wants to hear my voice then I begin to imagine if he love me .
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      on December 29, 2024 6:08 pm
      Dear [Anonymous],When there is poor communication in a relationship, it can significantly affect the connection because communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship. Sit him down and have an open conversation about why he struggles to communicate effectively. It's not just about communication itself but about communicating with transparency, mutual respect, and a willingness to submit to one another.This is important because, if the relationship progresses to marriage, good communication and mutual understanding will help you navigate challenges together. Relationships thrive when there is clear and honest communication, so encourage him to work on this. Let him know how vital it is for both of you.If he is willing to make changes, give him time to improve. No one is perfect, and growth takes effort and patience. However, if he remains unwilling to change, you must decide whether you can accept him as he is. Be aware that poor communication can lead to recurring issues in the relationship, so addressing it early is essential.Remember, relationships require mutual correction and growth. It’s not about abandoning a relationship at the first sign of trouble, but rather about working together to strengthen your bond. If he shows readiness to improve, embrace him as he is and move forward together.Yours sincerely, [My Love Life and I]